The Gaslight Effect by Robin Stern audiobook

The Gaslight Effect: How to Spot and Survive the Hidden Manipulation Others Use to Control Your Life

By Dr. Robin Stern
Read by Nan McNamara

Random House Audio
9.58 Hours Unabridged
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Are You Being Gaslighted? Check for these telltale signs: 1. You constantly second-guess yourself. 2. You wonder, “Am I being too sensitive?” a dozen times a day. 3. You wonder frequently if you are a “good enough” girlfriend/wife/employee/friend/daughter. 4. You have trouble making simple decisions. 5. You think twice before bringing up innocent topics of conversation. 6. You frequently make excuses for your partner’s behavior to friends and family. 7. Before your partner comes home from work, you run through a checklist in your head to anticipate anything you might have done wrong that day. 8. You buy clothes for yourself, furnishings for your apartment, or other personal purchases thinking about what your partner would like instead of what would make you feel great. 9. You actually start to enjoy the constant criticism, because you think, “What doesn’t kill me will make me stronger.” 10. You start speaking to your husband through his secretary so you don’t have to tell him things you’re afraid might upset him. 11. You start lying to avoid the put-downs and reality twists. 12. You feel as though you can’t do anything right. 13. You frequently wonder if you’re good enough for your lover. 14. Your kids start trying to protect you from being humiliated by your partner. 15. You feel hopeless and joyless. Your husband crosses the line in his flirtations with another woman at a dinner party. When you confront him, he asks you to stop being insecure and controlling. After a long argument, you apologize for giving him a hard time. Your boss backed you on a project when you met privately in his office, and you went full steam ahead. But at a large gathering of staff—including yours—he suddenly changes his tune and publicly criticizes your poor judgment. When you tell him your concerns for how this will affect your authority, he tells you that the project was ill-conceived and you’ll have to be more careful in the future. You begin to question your competence. Your mother belittles your clothes, your job, your friends, and your boyfriend. But instead of fighting back as your friends encourage you to do, you tell them that your mother is often right and that a mature person should be able to take a little criticism. If you think things like this can’t happen to you, think again. Gaslighting is when someone wants you to do what you know you shouldn’t and to believe the unbelieveable. It can happen to you and it probably already has. How do we know? If you consider answering “yes” to even one of the following questions, you’ve probably been gaslighted: Does your opinion of yourself change according to approval or disapproval from your spouse? When your boss praises you, do you feel as if you could conquer the world? Do you dread having small things go wrong at home—buying the wrong brand of toothpaste, not having dinner ready on time, a mistaken appointment written on the calendar? Gaslighting is an insidious form of emotional abuse and manipulation that is difficult to recognize and even harder to break free from. That’s because it plays into one of our worst fears—of being abandoned—and many of our deepest needs: to be understood, appreciated, and loved. In this groundbreaking guide, the prominent therapist Dr. Robin Stern shows how the Gaslight Effect works and tells you how to: Turn up your Gaslight Radar, so you know when a relationship is headed for trouble. Includes a bonus PDF of appendices from the book.

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Summary

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Are You Being Gaslighted? Check for these telltale signs: 1. You constantly second-guess yourself. 2. You wonder, “Am I being too sensitive?” a dozen times a day. 3. You wonder frequently if you are a “good enough” girlfriend/wife/employee/friend/daughter. 4. You have trouble making simple decisions. 5. You think twice before bringing up innocent topics of conversation. 6. You frequently make excuses for your partner’s behavior to friends and family. 7. Before your partner comes home from work, you run through a checklist in your head to anticipate anything you might have done wrong that day. 8. You buy clothes for yourself, furnishings for your apartment, or other personal purchases thinking about what your partner would like instead of what would make you feel great. 9. You actually start to enjoy the constant criticism, because you think, “What doesn’t kill me will make me stronger.” 10. You start speaking to your husband through his secretary so you don’t have to tell him things you’re afraid might upset him. 11. You start lying to avoid the put-downs and reality twists. 12. You feel as though you can’t do anything right. 13. You frequently wonder if you’re good enough for your lover. 14. Your kids start trying to protect you from being humiliated by your partner. 15. You feel hopeless and joyless. Your husband crosses the line in his flirtations with another woman at a dinner party. When you confront him, he asks you to stop being insecure and controlling. After a long argument, you apologize for giving him a hard time. Your boss backed you on a project when you met privately in his office, and you went full steam ahead. But at a large gathering of staff—including yours—he suddenly changes his tune and publicly criticizes your poor judgment. When you tell him your concerns for how this will affect your authority, he tells you that the project was ill-conceived and you’ll have to be more careful in the future. You begin to question your competence. Your mother belittles your clothes, your job, your friends, and your boyfriend. But instead of fighting back as your friends encourage you to do, you tell them that your mother is often right and that a mature person should be able to take a little criticism. If you think things like this can’t happen to you, think again. Gaslighting is when someone wants you to do what you know you shouldn’t and to believe the unbelieveable. It can happen to you and it probably already has. How do we know? If you consider answering “yes” to even one of the following questions, you’ve probably been gaslighted: Does your opinion of yourself change according to approval or disapproval from your spouse? When your boss praises you, do you feel as if you could conquer the world? Do you dread having small things go wrong at home—buying the wrong brand of toothpaste, not having dinner ready on time, a mistaken appointment written on the calendar? Gaslighting is an insidious form of emotional abuse and manipulation that is difficult to recognize and even harder to break free from. That’s because it plays into one of our worst fears—of being abandoned—and many of our deepest needs: to be understood, appreciated, and loved. In this groundbreaking guide, the prominent therapist Dr. Robin Stern shows how the Gaslight Effect works and tells you how to: Turn up your Gaslight Radar, so you know when a relationship is headed for trouble. Includes a bonus PDF of appendices from the book.

Editorial Reviews

Editorial Reviews

An essential survival tool. In a clear, comforting, and sophisticated voice, therapist Robin Stern takes her psychologically abused readers on a step-by-step journey that will help them take control of their lives and their destinies. Phyllis Chesler, PhD, author of Woman’s Inhumanity To Woman
Compassionate and honest in equal parts, the Gaslight Effect is like a sturdy, truth-telling friend in difficult times. Robin Stern will show you you’re not alone in your toxic relationship, and she’ll also help you identify your role and how to change–and be a stronger, wiser person as a result. Rachel Simmons, bestselling author of Odd Girl Out

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Author Bio: Dr. Robin Stern

Author Bio: Dr. Robin Stern

Dr. Robin Stern is a psychoanalyst, educator, and the author of The Gaslight Effect. She is one of the lead facilitators of the Inner Resilience Program, created post–9/11 to help educators build resilience and coping skills, and has been a keynote speaker at universities and a consultant for schools, corporations, and nonprofit organizations. Dr. Stern lives in New York City.

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Available Formats : Digital Download
Category: Nonfiction/Psychology
Runtime: 9.58
Audience: Adult
Language: English