The Selfishness of Others by Kristin Dombek audiobook

The Selfishness of Others: An Essay on the Fear of Narcissism

By Kristin Dombek
Read by Rachel Fulginiti

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They’re among us, but they are not like us. They manipulate, lie, cheat, and steal. They are irresistibly charming and accomplished, appearing to live in a radiance beyond what we are capable of. But narcissists are empty. No one knows exactly what everyone else is full of—some kind of a soul, or personhood—but whatever it is, experts agree that narcissists do not have it. So goes the popular understanding of narcissism, or NPD (narcissistic personality disorder). And it’s more prevalent than ever, according to recent articles in the New York Times, the Atlantic, and Time. In bestsellers like The Narcissism Epidemic, Narcissists Exposed, and The Narcissist Next Door, pop psychologists have armed the normal with tools to identify and combat the vampiric influence of this rising population, while on websites like NarcissismSurvivor.com, thousands of people congregate to swap horror stories about relationships with “narcs.” In The Selfishness of Others, the essayist Kristin Dombek provides a clear-sighted account of how a rare clinical diagnosis became a fluid cultural phenomenon, a repository for our deepest fears about love, friendship, and family. She cuts through hysteria in search of the razor-thin line between pathology and common selfishness, writing with robust skepticism toward the prophets of NPD and genuine empathy for those who see themselves as its victims. And finally, she shares her own story in a candid effort to find a path away from the cycle of fear and blame and toward a more forgiving and rewarding life.

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A NPR Best Book of 2016

A Shelf Awareness Best Book of 2016

They’re among us, but they are not like us. They manipulate, lie, cheat, and steal. They are irresistibly charming and accomplished, appearing to live in a radiance beyond what we are capable of. But narcissists are empty. No one knows exactly what everyone else is full of—some kind of a soul, or personhood—but whatever it is, experts agree that narcissists do not have it.

So goes the popular understanding of narcissism, or NPD (narcissistic personality disorder). And it’s more prevalent than ever, according to recent articles in the New York Times, the Atlantic, and Time. In bestsellers like The Narcissism Epidemic, Narcissists Exposed, and The Narcissist Next Door, pop psychologists have armed the normal with tools to identify and combat the vampiric influence of this rising population, while on websites like NarcissismSurvivor.com, thousands of people congregate to swap horror stories about relationships with “narcs.”

In The Selfishness of Others, the essayist Kristin Dombek provides a clear-sighted account of how a rare clinical diagnosis became a fluid cultural phenomenon, a repository for our deepest fears about love, friendship, and family. She cuts through hysteria in search of the razor-thin line between pathology and common selfishness, writing with robust skepticism toward the prophets of NPD and genuine empathy for those who see themselves as its victims. And finally, she shares her own story in a candid effort to find a path away from the cycle of fear and blame and toward a more forgiving and rewarding life.

Editorial Reviews

Editorial Reviews

“Sharply argued, knottily intelligent, darkly funny…showing how a specialized clinical term metastasized into a sweeping description of our entire culture.” New York Times
“Essayist Dombek offers plenty of examples of what has become a buzzword for the self-absorbed millennial…A savvy, sharp study.” Kirkus Reviews
“A tour de force and a masterpiece of comic intellect.” Mark Greif, author of The Age of the Crisis of Man

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by Odin 11/21/2017
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Selfies in a new perspective

Ah, the Age of Selfies. After listening to Dombek’s take on narcissism, one is left with a thought provoking rethinking of the malady. Tracing its origins through history all the way back too mythological roots through the story of Narcissus and Echo, to the first appearance in the DSM, to the present day technological enhanced self-absorption of selfies, Face Book, and of course the ubiquitous Twitter. Some might argue Narcissism was and is an affliction of both genders, with a leaning toward the female component as the means by which men felt they could silence women. A revealing quote from Dombek is: “If he is empty inside, this narcissist, who or what is it inside of him that is imitating have a self?” Self-possessed millennials who spend endless hours garnering “friends” on Face Book or twittering opinions that scream out “Look at me. I’m somebody” would do well to listen to Rachel Fulginiti’s noteworthy reading of this study.

Author

Author Bio: Kristin Dombek

Author Bio: Kristin Dombek

Kristin Dombek is the 2013 winner of the Rona Jaffe Foundation Writers’ Award. Her essays can be found in the New York Times, Harper’s magazine, the London Review of Books, n+1, and the Paris Review. She has written an advice column for n+1 called “The Help Desk,” and her book about fear of narcissism, The Selfishness of Others, was published in 2016. She lives in Brooklyn and teaches in the Princeton Writing Program.

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Available Formats : Digital Download, Digital Rental, CD
Category: Nonfiction/Psychology
Runtime: 4.03
Audience: Adult
Language: English